The two words that go hand in hand. If we want some resentments, go set some expectations on yourself, other people, and circumstances. The problem is, it will kill us eventually.
The question we ask is, "Don't I have to plan for things?" The answer is yes, but the solution is to leave the results to God or your higher power. In order to do this we have to have faith. When our plans don't go the way we wanted them to, having faith that things are exactly the way they are supposed to be is the easiest way of dealing with them. When we talk to sober people, they tell us that when we put expectations on things, we are running the show again. The book "Alcoholics Anonymous" talks about this. They compare it to the actor who is running the whole production. He is in charge of everything. His motives and intentions are good. He wants the show to come off perfectly. What happens? Things happen. Things that are totally out of our control happen. Sometimes we exert ourselves even more to make it happen. Then people get upset with us and we get upset at them. We get resentful at life. There is no more dangerous concoction for someone getting sober to be resentful at life and the world we live in. The reason is we are "spring loaded" to solving our problems with alcohol and drugs. This almost killed us. We are lucky it didn't.
Talk about it. Don't live in it. God and AA can figure out any problem we have. Of ourselves we are nothing.
I am grateful for the feeling of being useful. Today I will work at being of service to my fellow men and women. I pray that I remember the pain of selfish pursuits.